Adultery of Ashley Madison



Adultery of Ashley Madison

Richard Hollerman

By now, most of us have heard or read of the website that promotes adultery.  If you are like me, I was totally shocked by the recent revelation that so many Americans and people from around the world had signed up with the website in order to get “hooked up” with the opposite gender so as to commit adultery against their lawful spouse!

The thing that brought this site to the attention of people was the fact that hackers had made private date available to those who have a computer. In other words, something that was highly secret is now open to the public. One source tells us the extent of this leak of information:

An analysis by Gizmodo of hacked accounts shows that while there were 31 million male accounts, there were only 5.5 million female accounts, and only 12,108 women paid to delete their account, and less than one percent of the female accounts were active for more than one day. While 20 million users of male accounts checked their messages, only 1,492 users of female accounts did, and while 11 million users of male accounts used the chat system, only 2,409 users of female ones did. ( wiki/Ashley_Madison).

Did you notice how many men have opened accounts with this immoral website? Not 10,000 or even 100,000, and not one million…. But some 31 million men have accounts with this site in order to make connections that will enable them to commit adultery against their partners!  Even 5.5 women have accounts with the site!  Doesn’t this fact reveal that vast numbers of men and women are willing to be unfaithful to their spouses and want to have relationships with other people who have no qualms about committing adultery before God Himself!

What more can we find out about this website? 

Ashley Madison is a Canada-based online dating service and social networking service marketed to people who are married or in a committed relationship. Its slogan is “Life is short. Have an affair.” The website was launched in 2001. The name of the site was created from two popular female names, “Ashley” and “Madison”. According to third-party web analytics provider SimilarWeb, the site has more than 124 million visits per month, as of 2015, and is ranked No. 18 among Adult sites. (Ibid.)

Some of you may work with employees who boast about their “one night stands” in which they commit adultery with a virtual stranger.  Others may be aware of certain couples who are unmarried but who surely must be having an “affair” with those who are not their lawful husband or wife.  But now we learn that there is a way for people to connect for the express purpose of having an immoral sexual relationship with another person to whom they are not married!

All of this reminds us of the warning given in Proverbs about the adulteress who will destroy one with her subtle enticements:

The commandment is a lamp and the teaching is light;

And reproofs for discipline are the way of life

To keep you from the evil woman,

From the smooth tongue of the adulteress.

Do not desire her beauty in your heart,

Nor let her catch you with her eyelids. (Proverbs 6:23-25).


Can a man take fire in his bosom

And his clothes not be burned?

Or can a man walk on hot coals

And his feet not be scorched?

So is the one who goes in to his neighbor’s wife

Whoever touches her will not go unpunished. (6:27-29).


The one who commits adultery with a woman is lacking sense;

He who would destroy himself does it.

Wounds and disgrace he will find,

And his reproach will not be blotted out. (6:32-33).


Now therefore, my sons, listen to me,

And pay attention to the words of my mouth.

Do not let your heart turn aside to her ways,

Do not stray into her paths.

For many are the victims she has cast down,

And numerous are all her slain.

Her house is the way to Sheol,

Descending to the chambers of death. (6:24-27).

Although this is a lengthy section, it is a telling one. Perhaps we have just read over it as we worked out way through Proverbs, but in the context of Ashley Madison, it may make more sense now. The bottom line is: Don’t be captivated by the sin of adultery. Run from this sin! As Paul puts it, “Flee immorality” (1 Corinthians 6:18a). Immorality here is porneia, which means any sinful sexual expression—whether immoral unmarried sex, immoral sex while married to a spouse, homosexuality, and other unmentionable sex acts and relationships!

Noel Biderman is the founder of Ashley Madison and he calls himself “The King of Infidelity.” (Fort Worth Star-Telegram, August 2015). The article I read says that he has been married for twelve years and both he and his wife are faithful. “He is a devote husband, and his wife of 12 years says she would be devastated if he were unfaithful” (Ibid.).

This hypocritical couple have two children and we are assured that the husband and wife would not at all approve of their children being involved in an immoral sexual relationship. Yet they “see nothing wrong in running a site that allows married people who want to cheat to connect with others seeking an affair” (Ibid.). But wouldn’t this be the height of hypocrisy (literally “play acting”)? A hypocrite says, “Do as I say and not as I do.”  However, even this doesn’t apply, for these two are saying and encouraging tens of millions of men and women to fall for the sin of adultery! Isn’t it hypocritical for them to profess personal purity while they encourage impurity on a massive scale!

(The latest news is that Biderman is no longer the head of this adultery business.  “The CEO of the company that runs adultery website Ashley Madison is stepping down in the wake of the massive breach of the company’s computer systems and outing of millions of its members. The abrupt departure of Noel Biderman could be another sign that the website’s day are numbered, experts say” (“Ashley Madison CEO leaving post,” Fort Worth Star-Telegram, August 29, 2015). We are glad that the founder has stepped down and that perhaps the site will fold up. But the damage that he has done is irreparable. And probably people will seek some other outlet for their immoral, adulterous cravings.)

We know that there are great consequences for the sin of adultery.  Paul says that a professing Christian who is a fornicator (in this case, committing adultery) must be removed from the believing community (1 Corinthians 5:1-13). Further, the apostle says that one who commits adultery and refuses to repent “will not inherit the kingdom of God” (6:9-10).

Consider further in this chapter (1 Corinthians 6:11-20). If a man commits adultery with someone who is not his spouse, he become “one flesh” with that woman, and this must never be if he is joined to his wife through marriage (Matthew 19:4-6). He also tells us that “the immoral man sins against his own body” (v. 18).

Further yet, the adulterer who was saved in the past must also take note of this solemn warning: “Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own?” (v. 19). If a person did become a Christian, his body was made God’s temple or house and the Holy Spirit came to dwell in him. Further, his body is not his own, but it belongs to God! 

The apostle continues: “For you have been bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body” (v. 20). Jesus Christ bought you by paying the price of your sins on the cross, thus you now are to glorify God in the way you use your body. The body is not for immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord is for the body” (v. 13). There are many reasons why a person must run from an adulterous relationship—and those reasons include matters of this life as well as the life to come!

In the case of Noel and Amanda Biderman and the Ashley Madison business, these founders are encouraging tens of millions of men and women to do that which likely will destroy countless marriages.  Yet Jesus said, “What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate” (Matthew 19:6b). Further, think of the massive amount of STDs that will inevitably be transmitted through the adultery encouraged by the site.  Further yet, surely there will be many divorces initiated because one of the partners discovered the adultery that the mate is seeking.

Trish McDermott, a consultant who helped found, accused Ashley Madison of being a “business built on the back of broken hearts, ruined marriages, and damaged families”. Biderman responded by stating that the site is “just a platform” and a website or a commercial will not convince anyone to commit adultery. According to Biderman, affairs help preserve many marriages. ( wiki/Ashley_Madison)

We agree that the business of promoting adultery is a business “built on the back of broken hearts, ruined marriages, and damaged families.” How can Biderman live with himself in promoting such immorality?  Although the founder says that “affairs help preserve many marriages,” surely adultery will tear couples apart rather than bind them together!

Whatever we say about the present results of adultery and seeking adultery, we know that one of the greatest concerns is in the future. Not only are marriages being broken, not only are husbands and wives suffering pain and anguish, not only will children suffer the breakup of their parents’ union, but those guilty of adultery who refuse to repent, will not inherit the kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9-10; Galatians 5:19-21; Ephesians 5:3-7; Colossians 3:5-7). They will be judged by God (Hebrews 13:4) and suffer the eternal consequences of the lake of fire or hell (Revelation 21:8).

Let this be an opportunity for you to commit yourself to absolute fidelity and purity in marriage. Further, if you have been making any compromises (such as relationships with the opposite sex or viewing pornography in print or online), be willing to repent and escape this trap of Satan the enemy (Matthew 5:27-30). Strengthen your marriage and commit yourself to your husband or wife with a total commitment, without reservations.

Adultery is not the way to happiness, but the path to present misery, loneliness, and eternal doom.




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